Support from the partner during pregnancy

Pregnancy is a special time in every woman’s life. It is also a phase in which the expectant mother needs support and care from those closest to her—especially her partner. The help, care, and commitment of the father-to-be during the nine months of waiting for the birth of the child are invaluable. So how can a partner support a woman during pregnancy?

Throughout every stage of pregnancy—in all three trimesters—the woman is often confronted with various discomforts. For many expectant mothers, it is also an entirely new experience in which their body undergoes significant changes. That is why it is especially important to receive appropriate support and care during this time. Even if the pregnant woman feels physically well, it is important that she does not go through these nine months alone. The lack of support from close relatives, particularly from the partner, is considered a risk factor for the development of depression—both during pregnancy and after childbirth.

Emotional support

During pregnancy, the expectant mother undergoes numerous changes as her body adjusts to support the optimal development of the baby. For many women, this is also a time filled with worries and fears—regarding the course of the pregnancy, the health of the baby, or possible complications. In the third trimester, fears about the birth itself often arise—about the pain, but also about the new role as a mother.

One must not forget that the expectant mother’s body also has to cope with hormonal fluctuations, which are a major burden for many women. Symptoms such as excessive fatigue, loss of interest, low self-esteem, or inner restlessness can be signs of prenatal depression. In treating this type of depression, support from close relatives plays an especially important role. It is also crucial for prevention. A quick and appropriate response from the partner—for example, recommending that she see a therapist—can be very helpful.

Often, it is enough for the expectant mother to feel that she has someone to talk to, someone with whom she can share her fears and concerns. In many cases, this supportive person is the partner. Pregnancy should not only be about the woman but also involve the man. Many fathers-to-be therefore choose to give up alcohol, smoking, or foods unsuitable for pregnant women during this time. These gestures show their partner that sacrifices for the well-being of the child are being made together. Experts also recommend that the partner accompany the woman to prenatal check-ups, attend ultrasound appointments, and provide active support throughout the entire nine months.

Physical support

As the pregnancy progresses, everyday tasks become more difficult for the expectant mother. Cooking, carrying groceries, cleaning, or ironing can be major challenges during pregnancy. The partner should try—wherever possible—to take over these tasks. This is also important in the early stages of pregnancy, when many women suffer from nausea, vomiting, extreme fatigue, or drowsiness.

Many pregnant women, especially in the last few weeks, struggle with tasks like tying their shoes, painting their toenails, or shaving. In such situations, support from the partner can be very helpful. Many couples also choose to attend a childbirth preparation course together. These shared courses strengthen the bond between partners, and the skills learned play an important role during the birth itself—where the partner’s support is crucial.

Support during childbirth

Many women choose to have a so-called family birth and wish for their partner to be present. To be well prepared for this day, it is advisable to attend a childbirth preparation class or special birth support courses. This improves the cooperation between the parents during labor.

Usually, the partner joins the woman in the delivery room. There, he can accompany her under the shower, support her while bouncing on a birthing ball, or provide stability when she is standing by a wall bar. The presence of a trusted person is particularly helpful when using vertical birth positions. It helps the woman feel safer and more grounded. In addition, the partner’s support helps many women focus on proper breathing during painful contractions.

Finally, the partner often takes on the symbolic task of cutting the umbilical cord after the birth.